Okay, here’s a breakdown of the key points from the provided text, focusing on the motivations and appeal of male chastity as a kink:
Core Motivations & Appeal (from the text):
Surrender of Control: A primary driver for those interested in male chastity is a desire to relinquish control, to escape from traditional roles and expectations.
Challenging Gender Norms: The kink subverts traditional gender roles in sex, specifically challenging patriarchal ideas. It places control (both physically and psychologically) in the hands of the woman. This is appealing to both those who enjoy being controlled and to women who enjoy taking control.
Female Dominance: The text explicitly states that the taboo surrounding the kink stems from a fear of female control and dominance.
Enhanced Sexual Experience: Paradoxically, abstaining from traditional sexual activity (penis-in-vagina) can improve sex lives. It encourages creativity and exploration of new forms of pleasure.
Psychological aspect: It’s not just about physical restriction; it’s about the psychological dynamic of control and surrender.
Who is involved?
Men: Enjoy the surrender of control and the psychological aspect of the kink.
Women: enjoy the power dynamic and the challenge to traditional gender roles. some women, like the professional “domme” Shira, actively take on a dominant role, even managing chastity devices for clients (“keyholder“).
Partners: The kink is frequently enough explored within a relationship, requiring dialog and consent.
Key Terms Defined (from the text):
Domme: A dominant woman, particularly in a BDSM context.
Keyholder: Someone who holds the keys to a chastity device, controlling access.
In essence, the text portrays male chastity as a kink rooted in a desire for power dynamics, a rejection of traditional gender roles, and a potential for enhanced sexual exploration.
Quand nous entendons le mot “chasteté” Nous pensons probablement au Moyen Âge et aux cages métalliques que les hommes obligeraient soi-disant leurs femmes ou leurs filles à porter pour protéger leur «vertu».
Cependant, alors que la chasteté a peut-être commencé comme un moyen de contenir et de contrôler la sexualité féminine (ou, au moins, comme une blague culturelle élaborée sur le contrôle de la sexualité féminine), aujourd’hui, la chasteté a pris un sens très différent dans le BDSM monde – et il se concentre sur les appareils pour les hommes.
Qu’est-ce qu’une cage de chasteté masculine?
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En termes clairs, une cage de chasteté masculine est un dispositif qui empêche les érections ou tout type d’activité sexuelle pour les hommes, en restreignant le pénis et les testicules. Ils sont souvent en métal ou en plastique, et sont le plus souvent utilisés dans le cadre du BDSM ou entortiller.
Si vous parcourez détaillants de jouets sexuelsVous pouvez trouver une variété de produits de chasteté: à partir de périphériques métalliques avec une serrure et une clé sur des appareils intelligents qui peuvent être contrôlés via une application. Et, presque tous ces appareils sont destinés aux hommes.
Qu’est-ce que la chasteté Kink?
Chastety Kink est un large spectre, allant des préliminaires, où une personne pourrait s’abstenir de sexe ou être enfermée dans un appareil physique pendant une courte période, à un style de vie complet, où les clés (littérales) vers la liberté sexuelle d’un gars sont contrôlées par un partenaire pendant des jours, des semaines ou même des mois à la fois.
Quel est l’attrait de verrouiller vos parties génitales dans une cage, demandez-vous? Pour beaucoup d’hommes, les normes de genre peuvent entraîner une énorme pression pour se comporter de certaines manières – et une chasteté comme un pli peut être une évasion sûre de cela, explique Gigi Engle, éducatrice sexuelle certifiée et auteur de All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life. “It comes, in part, from a desire to give over control, to escape from your role,” she says. “One of the reasons this kink is so popular, but still taboo, is that we’re afraid of that dynamic, we’re afraid, still, of female control and dominance.”
This subversion of traditional gender norms can be appealing to women, too. Professional domme Shira says that she appreciates that the kink challenges patriarchal ideas around sex—that it gives the control (literally and psychologically) to the woman. Shira is a “keyholder” which means she keeps the keys of the chastity devices of a number of her male clients—she also enjoys the kink in her spare time with her partner.
And while it may seem like a contradiction, many fans of male chastity say that abstaining from sex, or taking their penis out of the equation, has made their sex lives better. That’s because “sex” doesn’t just mean penis-in-vagina anymore; they’ve gotten creative and discovered new ways to experience pleasure.
How do you talk to your partner about trying a chastity cage?
Opening up about a desire can be difficult, particularly if the desire goes against common social standards and you’re not sure how your partner will respond. “I think you have to make a calculation,” says Kenneth Play, a sex educator and founder of the Sex Hacker Pro video series. “It’s okay to do that math and weigh up your desires against the potential stigma level. I think people need to think about the worst-case scenario, and play through how they might feel if their partner does respond badly.”
And what if that worst-case scenario comes true (i.e., a partner balks at the idea)? “I think we can consider ourselves very lucky if we have a partner who completely accepts us, but it’s important to remember that forcing compatibility can be harmful, too,” Play says. He adds that if a partner isn’t interested in exploring a kink with you, you could discuss ethical nonmonogamy, or talk about finding a compromise that you are both comfortable with.
Abby Moss is a London-based freelance journalist specializing in sex and relationships.